June 19, 2010

The Realities of Dating a Co-worker

Posted in Nurses tagged , , , , at 3:41 am by Nursing Tales Team

Watch Grey’s Anatomy and you’ll think that dating different doctors and nurses where you work is the thing to do.  However, life at work can be made quite difficult when you do date new Hottie from the Cath Lab.  To maintain your reputation at work doesn’t mean that you have to steer clear of dating someone close to you.  Things happen, and should you experience a mutual attraction with a co-worker, you may want to explore those feelings to see where they go.  Who knows, you may be the one to get the happily ever after.  But make sure the facility you are working for doesn’t have rules against co-workers dating.

You cannot assume that your nursing team will be happy for you should you engage in a relationship with another co-worker.  So before you jump in with both feet, you need to determine just how to proceed.  Of course you are not at work to build relationships; you are there to help your patients and fulfill your career goals.  However, part of your success and job satisfaction is determined by your work relationships.  If you do feel that you want to apursue that spark that you share with that cute co-worker, here are some tips to help it go smoothly.

•    It seems obvious to assume you would not play bad nurse and hook up in empty storage rooms.  This is not Hollywood, it is your place of employment.  However, it cannot be overstated that you should refrain from any PDA (public display of affection) at work.  This goes for passing in the halls to having lunch in the courtyard.  When you are anywhere near your work facilities, maintaining a professional demeanor is your best plan of action.  Your relationship is private; for your enjoyment.  Keeping the details and the PDA for time away from the job can actually fan the flames even more!

•    Maintaining relationships with your friends at work is a must.  Your nursing team needs to operate as a cohesive unit; and if you suddenly disappear because you playing fast and loose up with Dr. Steamy Dream, it is likely that they will not take kindly to your absence.  Be sure to continue those lunches with the team, or the Friday night happy hour routine you have set up.  Whatever your routine has been, work your new romantic relationship around that and your co-workers will be all the more supportive when they do discover your romantic involvement.

•    Keep your career on track.  Let’s say you begin to date a doctor; maybe your childhood dream was to marry a doctor; you still have your own career to think about.  Don’t stop training or start slacking off on the job.  Should your romantic involvement reach heights in which you commit your lives forever, good for you.  But until then, it’s best to stick with your own personal goals that you had set so that you don’t wind up with regret.

Dating another nurse, a doctor, or anyone else in your facility does not exactly equal disaster.  That is not a given.  But it is also not a guarantee that you will ride off into the sunset either.  As with any time two co-workers date; decorum is of the utmost importance.

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